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"Break the rules Michael? I couldn't attain that!" Of course
you could. In fact, I'd suggest your rules are precisely
what keep you from having what you want in life.
When I say "rules," I mean:
* your ingrained ways of thinking.
* your hidden assumptions.
* your habits.
* your misplaced generalities.
Rules might as well as total that which you call "common
sense." One of the greatest regard as being breakers ever, Albert
Einstein, wrote "common suitability is the addition of
prejudices acquired by age 18."
Are you feeling "stuck?" Are you in a rut? Can't find a
solution to an ongoing hardship or challenge? If so, like
many of my clients, it's probably one of your rules keeping
you that way.
Here's a easy example. A client - who I'll call Janice -
really wanted to start an exercise program, but she had
written it off as impossible due to her animated schedule.
In our conversations, Janice would tell things past "that's
just the habit it is," or "it's out of my control." As I
questioned Janice further, it became sure one of her
rules was "I have to go to a gym to workout."
Now that may sealed silly to some people, but for Janice,
all she knew was "I have to go to a gym to achievement out, and
I don't have become old to go to a gym." in the same way as a horse with
blinders on, it's all she could see.
"Janice, who says you have to go to a gym to exercise?"
Light-bulb-aha moment for sure. As soon as Janice allow go
of that tiny rule, she was competent to decide the many
other options to hand to her.
Further, by letting go of this particular rule, Janice
began walking each hours of daylight later her younger sister. The
two had drifted apart in recent years, and Janice wanted
to add to that relationship.
Here's different example of breaking rules, although a
fictional one. In a recent "Seinfeld" episode, the
character George Costanza discovers if he conveniently does the
opposite of what he'd usually accomplish in a unmovable situation,
he'll acquire the consequences he desires in that situation.
George goes for a job interview taking into consideration the further York Yankees.
When he meets the team owner, George tells him what a
lousy job he's finished managing the Yankees. then again of being
polite and professional, as he usually would, George is
rude and obnoxious. Naturally, he gets hired.
I don't suggest you follow George's guide . . . not
totally anyway. It unconditionally wouldn't harm to see at some
of your own rules though. look especially in the area(s)
where you mood beached or in a rut.
It might afterward help to talk it out next someone who's
trained to support you locate solutions and fake forward, such
as a coach. As one of my supplementary clients recently told me,
"I appreciate your honesty and directness in pointing out
things that I've had "blinders" upon to."
Ready to rupture some rules? Go ahead. You can accomplish it. As
Thomas Edison said: "hell, there are no rules here--we're
trying to achieve something." It may be the only
difference between a vibrancy that's so-so and a enthusiasm that's
amazing.
It's Your Life! make it great.
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